I wanted to touch on something that is kind of a hot button issue right now and I don’t want it to affect you and your friends wherever you are. There is something I like to call “mom wars” going on right now. I’m sure it’s always gone on but with social media and the internet, it’s pretty pervasive.
A mom war is when you are pitting good moms vs bad moms. When you are saying, “because I do this, I'm a good mom” - and “because she does that ,she’s a bad mom. “
Let me give you an example. A good mom breastfeeds. A bad mom bottle feeds. A good mom stays home with her child - a bad mom goes to work and puts her child in daycare. A good mom sends her kids to school, a bad mom homeschools. A good mom is a gentle parenter, a bad mom doesn’t follow a code.
The list could go on and on but enough. We are a sisterhood united in Christ, united in motherhood - and we can’t let that junk get past our hearts and into our minds.
If a mom feels like you will judge her decisions on motherhood, how can she trust you with her authentic self? Her true desires? How can she trust that you won’t think she’s crazy or a mess?
If we are going to support each other and lift each other up as moms, we need to tune that mess of good mom and bad mom out of our heads and instead turn towards what Jesus says.
Proverbs 17:17: A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Ephesians 4:2: Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
1 John 4: 7: Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.
1 Peter 4:8: Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Jesus has no space for pettiness and selfishness and rudeness and being the judge of others - in Jesus we have a teacher that shows us what it’s like to love the unlovable and to have a heart for those living completely differently than we are.
And just like, if we give ourselves to Jesus and we die - God doesn’t see our sin but He only sees Jesus’ perfection and beauty- we need to look at our friends and other moms in this same way - as sisters in Christ - as women that God has appointed in such a time as this to be the mother of their child and to mother in the way that she feels called.
And this is attainable, sisters. Remind yourself if someone’s parenting is stressing you out, because it will - check yourself before you wreck yourself. One thing I like to do is as soon as someone’s getting to me, because they will, I pray for them. I’m like Lord be with so and so and thank you for her and her children or whatever it is. Don’t let yourself begin to bear resentment or anger or ill will towards another person, but especially another mom. You can do it. You’re already raising little people - and nothing is harder than that.